How Self Destructive Addiction Becomes So Important?

There are no "positive" addictions. All addictions have bad consequences in some way or form. Contrary to the great belief everybody has a "vice", there are millions of people who are not addicted to anything. Not because their parents "raised" them good or they grew up in a "good" environment, or because they do not have a "disease", it is because of their choices. One of my clients, who I helped overcome a sex addiction few years ago, said he should have never started his addicted behavior. For him what begun as a harmless fun, over the years became overwhelming compulsion to sex addiction. No one starts addictive behavior expecting to become hooked, on the contrary, that thought does not even cross their mind, especially when it comes to sex addiction because sex comes naturally to us.

You gave up a lot in your life to indulge in your addiction. When you stop incorrectly and fail, you affirm your mind that addiction is necessary in your life and is more important than your reason(s) to stop. For example, when someone wants to be healthier and want to save time by stopping, but fails to stop by going back to the sexually addictive behavior, he affirms his mind his addiction is more important than him being healthier or saving time. Or if someone wants to stop because fear of losing marriage/relationship and hurting their career, but then he acts addictively and affirms his mind addiction is important in his life even though he fears of losing marriage/relationship and hurting his career. Also if you tried to stop ten times and failed ten times, not only did you affirm your mind ten times that your addiction is more important than your reason(s) for stopping, you make it more difficult for your next attempt to stop. That is one of the reason the sooner you stop correctly the better. Overcoming an addiction is one of the best things you can do for yourself if not the most.